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Dr. Karyn Purvis and Michael Monroe offer helpful insights and practical advice in response to the following questions that are commonly asked by adoptive and foster parents:
1. How Do I Handle Manipulation & Control?
2. Will Trust-Based Parenting Work for My Child?
3. Why Won’t My Child Act His Age?
4. How Do I Handle Lying?
5. How Do I Find the Right Professional To Help Us?
6. Should I Parent My Adopted Child Differently Than Birth Children?
7. How Long Do I Have to Parent This Way?
8. Is It Adoption Related or Not?
9. Will Trust-Based Parenting Prepare My Child for the Real World?
10. How Can I Be Fair?
Watch each of these videos below — and be sure to share them with other parents as well. You can also order a DVD containing all 10 videos from the ETC online store here.
Parents often find that children from hard places are prone to use manipulative and controlling behaviors. Watch as Dr. Karyn Purvis and Michael Monroe offer insights to help adoptive and foster parents better understand these behaviors and respond effectively.
Parents often ask whether trust-based parenting — the type of parenting that Dr. Karyn Purvis teaches — will work for their child. Watch as Dr. Purvis answers this question, and explains why each of our children — regardless of their age or stage of development — need the same things from their parents.
In response to meltdowns, emotional outbursts, extreme neediness, and many other behavioral challenges, adoptive and foster parents are often left asking: “why won’t my child act his or her age?” Watch as Dr. Karyn Purvis and Michael Monroe address this important question, offering insight about the needs of adoptive and foster children and how parents can effectively meet those needs to build trust and develop a stronger connection.
Knowing how best to handle lying is often a significant challenge for adoptive and foster parents. Watch as Dr. Karyn Purvis and Michael Monroe offer insights to help parents effectively respond to lying while remaining connected with their child.
Adoptive and foster parents often need the help of professionals in order to meet their child’s needs. But how do parents know which professionals to turn to? Watch as Dr. Karyn Purvis and Michael Monroe offer practical insight about how parents should view the role of professionals, and which criterion to use in selecting the right professionals to help bring about healing for their child.
Parents often struggle to blend the parenting approach they used before they adopted with the unique trust-based parenting approach they are now using to meet the unique needs of a child from a hard place. Watch as Dr. Karyn Purvis explains how parents can effectively meet the needs of all of their children — biological, adopted, and foster — by using a parenting approach that focuses on building trust. In addition, Dr. Purvis offers valuable insight to help parents explain changes in their parenting approach to their older biological child and encourages parents to give all children a voice as the family welcomes home new children and embraces their needs.
As a result of early life experiences, children from hard places often miss out on some of the key development that is essential for helping them learn to trust and grow relationally. Because of their unique histories and needs, these children need parents that are willing to utilize the unique approach of trust-based parenting to help them heal and grow. Watch as Dr. Karyn Purvis encourages adoptive and foster parents to embrace trust-based parenting as the “new normal” that God has called them to as an essential part of the journey.
Watch as Dr. Karyn Purvis answers the challenging question that many adoptive parents ask: is it adoption related or just typical child behavior? In this brief video Dr. Purvis offers helpful insights and encourages parents to always be mindful of their child’s history.
Watch as Dr. Karyn Purvis and Michael Monroe talk about the importance of meeting your child’s needs with an appropriate balance of nurture and structure in order to prepare them to be successful later in life.
Parents often feel pressure to respond to each of their children with ‘sameness’ instead of ‘fairness’ based on individual needs and development. Watch as Michael Monroe offers helpful insights about the important question of ‘fairness’ and encourages parents to focus on meeting the unique needs of each child in order to help their children heal and grow.
Tags: 10 Common Questions Series, Attachment, Balance of Nurture & Structure, Behavioral Challenges, Brain Development, Connecting While Correcting, Discipline, Finding Help, Investment Model of Parenting, Talking with Childen