Archive for “Older Children”
By: Dr. Karyn Purvis, Michael Monroe
Thursday, January 17, 2013
Adoptive and foster parents often need to look to professionals to help them and their child. But how do parents know which professionals to turn to?
Watch as Dr. Karyn Purvis and Michael Monroe offer practical insight about how parents should view the role of professionals and which criterion they should use in selecting the right professional to come alongside them in order to help bring about healing for their child.
Tags: 10 Common Questions Series, Behavioral Challenges, Finding Help, Food & Nutrition, Older Children, Sensory Processing
Posted in Video |
By: Dr. Karyn Purvis
Thursday, October 18, 2012
Parents often struggle to blend the parenting approach they used before they adopted with the trust-based parenting approach they are now using to meet the unique needs of a child from a hard place.
Watch as Dr. Karyn Purvis explains how parents can effectively meet the needs of all of their children — biological, adopted, foster — by using a parenting approach that focuses on building trust. In addition, Dr. Purvis offers valuable insight to help parents explain changes in their parenting approach to their older biological child, and encourages parents to give these children a voice as the family welcomes new children through adoption and embraces their needs.
Tags: 10 Common Questions Series, Adoption Preparation, Giving Voice, Investment Model of Parenting, Motivations and Expectations, Older Children, Talking with Childen
Posted in Video |
By: ETC Team
Wednesday, October 10, 2012
Time-in (as opposed to time-out) is an important strategy to help parents learn to “connect while correcting” with their children.
When using the time-in strategy it’s critical to remember that time-in is not intended to punish your child. Instead, time-in is designed to help your child calm and regulate so that he can express his needs (or wants) appropriately. Also, be sure not to jump the gun and resort to time-in when another, lower level strategy (such as playful engagement or choices) might address the behavior more effectively.
But there are times when a time-in is precisely the strategy that is called for. So here are eight keys to help you implement an effective time-in with your child.
Tags: Attachment, Balance of Nurture & Structure, Behavioral Challenges, Being Fully Present, Connecting While Correcting, Creative Ways to Connect, Discipline, Giving Voice, Investment Model of Parenting, Older Children, Playful Interaction, Repairing Connection
Posted in Articles |
By: Dr. Karyn Purvis, Michael Monroe
Wednesday, September 19, 2012
Watch as Dr. Karyn Purvis and Michael Monroe talk about the importance of meeting your child’s needs with an appropriate balance of nurture and structure in order to prepare them for success later in life.
Tags: 10 Common Questions Series, Balance of Nurture & Structure, Behavioral Challenges, Compassion, Connecting While Correcting, Discipline, Especially for Dads, Giving Voice, Older Children, Teaching Life Values
Posted in Video |
By: Dr. Karyn Purvis, Michael Monroe
Wednesday, September 12, 2012
In response to meltdowns, emotional outbursts, extreme neediness, and many other behavioral challenges, adoptive and foster parents are often left asking: “why won’t my child act his or her age?”
Watch as Dr. Karyn Purvis and Michael Monroe address this important question, offering insight about the needs of adoptive and foster children and how parents can effectively meet those needs to build trust and develop a stronger connection.
Tags: 10 Common Questions Series, Behavioral Challenges, Compassion, Discipline, Giving Voice, Investment Model of Parenting, Older Children
Posted in Video |
By: Dr. Karyn Purvis, Michael Monroe
Wednesday, September 5, 2012
Parents often find that their child from a hard place is prone to use manipulative and controlling behaviors. Watch as Dr. Karyn Purvis and Michael Monroe offer insights to help adoptive and foster parents better understand these behaviors and respond effectively.
Tags: 10 Common Questions Series, Balance of Nurture & Structure, Behavioral Challenges, Connecting While Correcting, Discipline, Giving Voice, Older Children
Posted in Video |
By: Dr. Karyn Purvis
Saturday, August 18, 2012
Watch as Dr. Karyn Purvis provides wisdom and insight for adoptive and foster parents that need help responding to aggressive and violent behaviors from a child.
Tags: Behavioral Challenges, Connecting While Correcting, Dealing with Crisis, Discipline, Older Children
Posted in Video |
By: Amy Monroe, Dr. Karyn Purvis, Michael Monroe
Thursday, August 2, 2012
Part of the role of good Christian parents is undoubtedly teaching their children the values they cherish. We want our children to understand the importance of these values and, more importantly, to live a life that reflects them. Respect for others (and yourself), kindness, gentleness, self-control and other similar character qualities provide our children with a solid foundation and prepare them for the future. The question for parents, however, is how best to teach these values in ways our children can understand and make their own. Specifically, we need to ask how we can best do this for our children who come from hard places and have not had these things consistently taught, modeled or esteemed.
Tags: Behavioral Challenges, Being Fully Present, Connecting While Correcting, Discipline, Older Children, Teaching Life Values
Posted in Articles |
By: Lisa Qualls
Wednesday, July 25, 2012
When I became a mother, I wanted summer days to be relaxed and fun. With a larger family, there was more work to be done, so my children had significant chores, and yard work to do, but there was still plenty of time for play. Stacks of books to read, afternoons at the local pool, and sleeping out in the yard were foundations to our days.
This summer my desk is stacked with lists of activities, charts for chores, camp registration forms, and appointment reminders. As I’ve been working on plans for this summer, I recognize how differently I approach summer as the mother of children from “hard places.”
Tags: Balance of Nurture & Structure, Being Fully Present, Count the Cost, Investment Model of Parenting, Motivations and Expectations, Older Children, Sensory Processing
Posted in Articles |
By: Lisa Qualls
Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Dr. Karyn Purvis speaks about the importance of giving children “voice,” and we have embraced this as we’ve loved and cared for our children from “hard places.” But what about the children that were already in our family? Did we neglect to give them voice? Did we fail to meet their needs as we desperately worked to help our most traumatized children?
I can tell you that we did, and it breaks my heart to acknowledge it. In March 2007, we brought three children home from Ethiopia. One of them brought severe challenges that turned our family upside down. Our home, which had once been a very happy place, was now in constant tumult. And the children already in our family suffered more than we could have imagined.
In many ways, we failed them. In our effort to bring healing to our children from “hard places” we created a “hard place” for our other children. In our effort to give our children from “hard places” voice, we neglected to give our other children “voice.” This is the hard truth.
Tags: Count the Cost, Dealing with Crisis, Giving Voice, Older Children, Talking with Childen
Posted in Articles |